How many songs can you think of, billboards, books, or other sources that convey this message: I depend on ME. Though it’s true that Darren and I want to be more self-sufficient and intentional when it comes to where/how we spend our money, time, and the resources we need to sustain our family, there are two specific areas that I know this is not true for. I NEED God like I need the air I breathe, and Darren and I depend on each other. To say that it is no big deal to go tiny would be an illusion, especially for a family of 6 plus a dog! Have you ever watched an illusionist and wondered how they did something? Here is a little insight to our last month!
Between strep throat, ear infections, trying to potty train our two year old, helping friends with their home, dropping off items to donate, taking trash to the dump, school schedules, helping lead music at a women’s retreat, and the every day tasks of groceries, meal making, home cleaning, Bible study, teaching gym classes, car troubles, work, family time, and a birthday, we somehow managed to sell our bedroom set, bed, 3 couches, and a huge desk. Is February done yet?! I recently saw this quote on Facebook: “Yes, I do depend on a man. My husband and I are a team. He depends on me and I depend on him. We support each other. That’s how marriage is supposed to work.” That is the only way it works for us! From one week of Darren taking off work to take care of the kids while I have strep, to the next week of my lending him my car and staying home completely while his gets fixed, among many other examples!
I love this second quote too! “A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.” This transition can be stressful. As a recovering perfectionist, letting parts of the house be a mess as I focus on another part is an act of patience! I’m the kind of girl who thrives on accomplishment, a natural do-er, and jump all in when I decide to do something. The thing about this season is that while normal life continues to happen, I have to think in a manner of many baby steps to get to our goal. It means I have to choose to set something aside, choose to be o.k. with things not maybe being what I’d envisioned, to have patience with the process, and understanding of the stress each step creates. It is a choice, and man did God get it right when he put Darren and I, almost complete opposites, together! Our marriage has to be first dependent on God, and second dependent on each other in order to maintain peace and order! We can’t be totally self-sufficient.
We still have many things to sell, many projects to finish, many habits to change, many items to sort through, but through it all, we can do it together, covered by God’s peace and provision, loads of grace for each other, and know that God works everything for good according to His plans and purpose, and He will not fail us!
Click on the picture below to see a picture of our transitioning bedroom! There are more baby steps even in that one room, but we trust they will happen one step at a time!
Melody is a full time mother, CEO of the Mike household, NASM certified Personal Trainer, Group Fitness Instructor, Beach Body Coach, Norwex Representative, Singer/Songwriter, Organizer, Jesus Lover, Wife, and well, you get the idea, a woman of many hats. Adventurous and creative, she loves spending time outdoors and encouraging others to be Lean, Clean, & Green.